3 Bulletproof Mindsets to Get Over the Guy Who Breaks Your Heart
Originally posted in Kristen Wolfe’s blog, She Is More
I have had a few emails come in asking how to deal with betrayal and sudden break-ups. My heart races when I hear stories of men mistreating my fellow women, and even more so when a woman accepts or remains in the mistreatment. I am super passionate that us women know our self worth and recognize quickly when to stop a relationship from going any further.
I know we’ve been taught the value of forgiveness and that it’s the right thing to give second chances. But in dating, second chances don’t apply to cheating or abuse. I don’t care what kind it is. Verbal, emotional or physical. There is a difference in forgiving and then just plain enabling bad behavior. Save yourself future damage and find someone who will value you as a decent human being. If this behavior begins in dating, what makes you think it will be different in a marriage? There are always underlying reasons to why someone cheats that can evoke sympathy and compassion in the nurturing woman. But whatever the sad reason is, we are not the ones who should be the brunt of their personal growth. If you are dating and your man has cheated, even via flirt texting, I would say there is an underlying, unhealthy root to his actions which needs to be addressed independently of you.
- Zero Tolerance Policy
I know we’ve been taught the value of forgiveness and that it’s the right thing to give second chances. But in dating, second chances don’t apply to cheating or abuse. I don’t care what kind it is. Verbal, emotional or physical. There is a difference in forgiving and then just plain enabling bad behavior. Save yourself future damage and find someone who will value you as a decent human being. If this behavior begins in dating, what makes you think it will be different in a marriage? - Read more: HERE
