Lent: the ultimate change-maker

By Francine & Byron Pirola | February 16, 2024

Like most people, our optimistic resolutions for the New Year tend to fizzle out before the end of January. Thankfully, Lent gives us another, and…

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Stonewalling: A Silent Killer in Marriage

By Francine & Byron Pirola | February 9, 2024

Stonewalling – aka ‘the silent treatment’ – is common in many marriages. Never helpful and poorly understood, we ignore it at our risk. Stonewalling is…

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How Expectations Set Us Up for Trouble

By Francine & Byron Pirola | February 2, 2024

When we look back on our early romance, we note how quick we were to trust each other, even recklessly so. We dived into the…

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Defending our hearts

By Francine & Byron Pirola | January 26, 2024

Is defensiveness crippling your relationship? Do you feel regularly on edge, reactive and punchy? Read on for our process for managing defensiveness. Recently, Byron shared…

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#21 Beyond Feelings

By Francine & Byron Pirola | January 19, 2024

The world of feelings is vitally important to life and relationships. But what does current research and best practice tell us about how to understand…

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Kiss to Connect

By Francine & Byron Pirola | January 12, 2024

Many couples find the excitement of sex somewhat diminished within a few years of marriage. Their physical intimacy seems somehow perfunctory, unimaginative, even boring. Soon…

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Resolutions to Have and to Hold

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 29, 2023

It’s a new year, a new decade and a new beginning. Among all the goal setting, consider what you can do to transform your marriage.…

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The Light of Bethlehem Heals

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 22, 2023

More than any other time of year, Christmas connects us with powerful childhood memories. For some, these are joyful: for many however, the memories are…

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#20 The Good the Bad and the Ugly of Holiday Traditions

By Isabella Garcia | December 21, 2023

Whether it’s Christmas, Easter, Mothers/Fathers day, birthdays or Thanksgiving… holiday traditions can be a source of blessing or of grief. With our guest we unpack…

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For Better is Important too

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 15, 2023

We all understand how important it is to know that your spouse will be there to support you during the hard times. Having someone to…

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Confessions of an Advent failure

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 8, 2023

Advent is supposed to be a season for spiritual growth and reflection. Too often we arrive at Christmas eve frazzled and in a spiritual desert.…

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#19 Transition to Parenthood

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 1, 2023

The transition to parenthood is a challenge for all couples but for a couple that experienced almost a decade of infertility the change from being…

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The Bethlehem Prayer

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 1, 2023

Through an imaginative encounter with the Holy Family at Bethlehem, God offers consolation and healing for our Family of Origin wounds. It’s very normal when…

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Waiting … with joyful hope

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 30, 2023

Advent is the season of waiting. And there sure is lots of waiting in marriage and family life. Advent, from the Latin adventus, means ‘coming’. …

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Displacing Contempt with Respect

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 24, 2023

Want to give your marriage heart burn? Try treating each other with contempt. Contempt has been identified as a corrosive relationship pattern among couples headed…

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