When history repeats, choose freedom

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 3, 2021

We remember sitting with a young couple who were locked in combat. She was prone to reactive outbursts and he was mystified as to what…

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How can I make your day better?

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 29, 2021

I read a blog post recently from a husband who brought his marriage back from the brink with this one simple, daily habit. Each morning…

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Love in the Waiting

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 25, 2021

Advent is the season of waiting; we wait in anticipation of the coming of Christ. But are we the only ones doing the waiting? I…

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The Passion Principle

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 18, 2021

One of the great delights of running marriage enrichment retreats for couples, is hearing all the amazing love stories. From beginning to end, every one…

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Perfectly imperfect marriages

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 10, 2021

Despite the promises of Hollywood and fairytales, the perfect marriage is the one that helps us grow the most. And that’s not likely to be…

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Romance and Mystery

By Francine & Byron Pirola | November 4, 2021

One of the things that makes a new romance so exciting and attractive is the element of uncertainty: Is this person really interested in me?…

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How to Forgive More Easily

By Francine & Byron Pirola | October 28, 2021

We remember those long nights in the first year of our marriage. In the infancy of his career, Byron was often late home from work…

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The Daily ‘I do’ When You’d Rather Not

By Francine & Byron Pirola | October 20, 2021

At a recent business conference, a speaker made an offhand remark about having to recommit to her marriage vows every day. It was in the…

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A Little Restraint Goes a Long Way

By Francine & Byron Pirola | October 14, 2021

It happens all the time – one of us does or says something and it triggers a harsh reaction. To break the habit of reactivity,…

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The Power of Ritual

By Francine & Byron Pirola | October 7, 2021

Some years ago, we attended a Smart Marriages conference in the United States. One of the most memorable inputs was from Dr Bill Doherty, a…

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Listening is the Music of Love

By Francine & Byron Pirola | September 30, 2021

One of the most supremely loving gestures we can give another is to listen to them. Yet for most of us, being listened to is…

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Undoing the Knots is Easier than you Think

By Francine & Byron Pirola | September 24, 2021

September 28 marks the feast of Mary Undoer of Knots. The devotion is over 300 years old and is based on a Baroque painting by…

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Unconditional Love is a Contradiction of Terms

By Francine & Byron Pirola | September 15, 2021

A Story Over the last few months, we have had several conversations with a woman who is struggling with a difficult situation. Her best friend…

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Change Starts Here

By Francine & Byron Pirola | September 9, 2021

Part 4 of It Takes One to Tango. See others in this series here, here. and here. All change in our relationships should start with ourselves.…

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Making Stumble-Stone Altars 

By Francine & Byron Pirola | September 2, 2021

There will be mistakes. We will make errors and we will mess up in this marriage business. Obstacles and challenges will be part of every…

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