Engaged 2018-03-20T14:35:18+00:00

“Absolutely revealing and incredibly real.”

– Lorenzo & Julita | Engaged Graduates

Engaged Online gives you the tools to make your marriage the best it can be.

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$99 AUD

 $80 USD*  |  £57 GBP*


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Course Overview

This session introduces the concept of Smart Loving – a practical insight designed to make a couple’s efforts to love more efficient by helping them learn the specific ways in which their fiancé experiences love. The role of affirmation is also addressed.

Using the L.I.F.E. communication framework, couples will learn how to communicate effectively and intimately. A technique for accomplishing Emotional Communion (empathy) is also taught.

A detailed examination of the couple’s attitudes and beliefs about sexuality and marriage, looking particularly at their family of origin. The impact of other significant relationships including emotional injuries is addressed.

Evaluate your priorities and examine your expectations for your future life together. Learn how to use the Stop-Reflect-Connect tool for values based decision making.

Examine the dynamics that lead to conflict and learn how to avoid it.  Learn how to restore your unity with the Stop-LIFE- Reflect-Connect – a process of reconciliation.

Examines how, contrary to popular belief, marital sex is an intimate communication rather than just a recreational activity. The concept of sex as a sacramental gesture and a renewal of wedding vows is explored.

Discover the wonder of human fertility and learn how to ready your body for its fertile status. Discuss your family goals and learn how to achieve them Fertility Awareness Methods.

Learn about the sacramentality of marriage and how a Catholic marriage differs from secular one. Discuss the commitment you are making on your wedding day and prepare you wedding liturgy.

Explore your unique spirituality and unlock the power of spiritual intimacy. Learn how to pray together and what to pray for.


Engaged Online FAQ’s

Marriage is a significant step in life and it is not something to be entered into lightly. Unfortunately, in our overly materialistic culture, the pressure in the engagement period is more about planning an elaborate party rather than taking the time to prepare yourselves spiritually and relationally for being married to someone for the rest of your life.

In addition, Catholic marriage (Matrimony) comes with additional obligations. It’s important that you understand these before you commit to them.

Marriage preparation is a process to help you and your fiance prepare for married life. Just like having a healthy diet helps prevent you getting sick, and recover more quickly when you do, marriage preparation is the same for your relationship. Studies have shown that couples who do good quality marriage preparation have a lower rate of divorce and better relationship resilience when hard times inevitably come.

SmartLoving Engaged has been working with engaged couples for over a decade and we have refined all our insights to bring you a comprehensive course that gives you and your fiance a safe space to ask the important questions and put your love on a solid foundation.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is suitable for all engaged couples.

If you are a long-distance couple, frequent travelers, shift worker, or have caring commitments, SmartLoving Engaged is the perfect course for you that is both high-quality, comprehensive and flexible.

We also have many civilly married couples preparing for a Catholic recommitment ceremony and also newlyweds. The material is timeless and even mature married couples find it valuable.

At the end of each Lesson, you will complete an online quiz on the material covered. The questions are designed to ensure that you have understood the key concepts. You need at least 80% to advance to the next lesson and quizzes may not be attempted until you have spent a minimum time in the lesson. Quiz questions can be previewed in the printed handouts.

At the end of the course, you complete an assessment whereby each of you separately complete a series of short answer questions. Your answers are then compiled into a report for your celebrant who may want to discuss some of your answers with you. A certificate is also generated at this time.

To make it easier for you, the questions are provided in the workbook so that you can draft your answers before you submit them. It’s not a test and there are no wrong answers. The purpose of the quizzes and assessment is to help us support you and ensure that you’ve mastered concepts, frameworks and tools.


Your final documentation includes a certificate and a report compiling your answers to your final assessment.

Not only will your celebrant have evidence that you have completed your marriage prep, he will have a chance to clarify anything and offer you and your fiance additional support as needed.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is the latest version of our acclaimed live (face-to-face) curriculum that has been approved for use in dioceses around the world for over 10 years.

If your celebrant has concerns about the quality or efficacy of SmartLoving Engaged Online, please let us know and give us his contact details and we will personally reassure him or direct him to the leaders information page where he can apply for free access to review the course.

If he still won’t accept your Course Report, we will refund you the cost of the course as part of our quality guarantee.

SmartLoving Engaged Online has a total of nine lessons that take about 1.5 hours each to complete. We recommend that you do one lesson per week so that you have time to practice the tools and complete all the activities. Most participants take around 10-12 weeks.

You can of course, work completely at your own pace and take as little or as much time as you need. However, you can not do the course justice if you aim to complete it in less than three weeks. The material is comprehensive and really requires in between lesson time to use the tools in your daily life so that you experience the benefits.

In addition, course time locks will prevent you from advancing too quickly and a timer will record your total active time spent on the platform. This time is part of your documentation at the end of the course.

So don’t be too hasty!

Couples who rush the course generally report lower satisfaction and rate the benefits of the course lower than those who take their time. We know it’s a busy time for you, so get started early on in your engagement so that you can take the time you need to really get the most from this.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is offered in two tracks:

The Celebrant Supervised track requires you to navigate through the course on your own (self-directed). After you sign up, you can begin the first lesson and progress at your own pace. When you get to the last Lesson, you will complete the assessment and your answers will be included with in your certificate for your celebrant to review.

The Parish Mentor track is offered by some parishes and allows you to interact with an experienced married couple, discussing the key concepts and personal insights. If your celebrant/parish doesn’t offer this option, you may have a suitable couple in your network who you can ask to be your mentors. They simply enrol in the ‘parish mentor’ version of the course and do the course in parallel with you. For more information, please send mentors here.

NOTE: If you need assistance at any time, you can purchase a coaching session with one of our accredited SL Coaches.

All you need a computer/tablet/mobile device with high-speed internet access, the printed handouts and a pen.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is a comprehensive course that uses the power of paper and digital media. Your Course comes with a digital PDF (84 pages) of the printed handouts with permission to print one each for you and your fiance. It is available to download at Lesson 0: Admin as a complete set,

You can also purchase the Participant Workbook from our online store. At the moment, all Workbooks are shipped from our base in Australia so it may be more cost effective to print your own.

Don’t stress! If you haven’t checked in for a while, our built in reminder system will send you a friendly email prompt.

While it may still be months from your wedding, we know from experience that couples who delay their preparation end up having to cram in the last few weeks – the busiest weeks of the engagement period! We want you to get the best value from the course, so we’ll be sure to send you a reminder if we haven’t seen you for more than a week.

If you are having technical issues, contact us immediately using the ‘Got a Question’ Form or via our live chat and we will resolve it as soon as possible.

If you are having trouble understanding any of the lessons or tools, you can purchase a one hour phone coaching session with one of our relationship coaches at anytime during the course.

If you have a Parish Mentor accompanying you through the course, speak to your mentors at your next meeting or give them a call for advice.

If you or your fiance require further professional help, consult your celebrant for advice on finding a suitable professional.

To register, click the button on this page. When you enrol, you will create a username & password which will be your login to your account. You only need to purchase 1 registration per couple as the course should be completed together.

Both formats cover the same content.

The online course is organised as nine 1.5 hour lessons while the live course is organised as six 2 hour sessions.

The advantage of the online course is that you can do it at your own pace and on your own schedule.

The advantage of the live (face-to-face) format is that you get a dedicated married couple who are focused on you and your fiancé over the duration of the course. They welcome you into their home and go through the course with you, using discussion points along the way. It brings the reality of marriage out in front of you through the mentor couple and their family. You can also experience this added benefit by using a parish mentor with the online course.

Don’t worry! You can’t fail the course and our goal is to equip you for success in your marriage so we’re committed to seeing you flourish.

To progress through the course, you will need to get at least 80% in each quiz. The questions are straight forward and can be previewed in your workbooks.

We want to make sure that you’ve understood the concepts and applied the tools – that’s why the ‘pass’ mark is 80% rather than 50%. 

If you get under 80% our system will direct you to the sections you need to revisit. When you’ve done this, attempt the quiz again. When you get to 80% the next lesson will unlock and you can progress to the next lesson.

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Couples Testimonials

“Enjoyable, revealing and rewarding, you’ll be encouraged to consider things you may not even be aware you need to think about.”

Jason & Katlyn | South Africa

“Useful, practical, deeply insightful and encouraging.”

Andrew & Tara | Australia

“We loved how interactive this course was and how much closer it has brought us together.
Thank you!”

Emily & Brian | USA

“An intense, helpful and extremely well-constructed course for engaged couples wanting to get the most out of their marriage.”

Carol & Steve | USA

“We’ve come out with a better understanding of who we are individually and where we want to go collectively as a married couple with actual plans. We’ve already implemented a few of the techniques we’ve learnt from the course.”

Maria & Lucio | Italy

“We really enjoyed participating in this course at our own pace and having so many valuable resources available to us along the way.”

James & Veronica | Ireland

“The highlight of SmartLoving for us would be the friendly and down to earth personalities of the team, especially Byron and Francine and how they make the course easy to listen to and understand.”

Jovy & Lan Huong | Australia

“A useful way to take time out and think beyond the superficial. The practical activities were so enlightening for us.”

Phoebe & Greg | Greece

“I am full of awe at what lays ahead. One thing that didn’t hit me until a little while ago was the fact that when we are married, I won’t have to do this alone but we’ll have prayer on my side and the power of the sacraments to help us grow in our union. It’s a very encouraging thought.”

Tim & Sarah | Australia

“A great course to really open up and build your relationship. Worth every cent to learn how to really love your fiance with many practical tips and helpful insights.”

Christian & Joan | UK

“We have already recommended the course to our friends. It is really applicable, even for non-religious couples. The skills we learned we will continue to use throughout our marriage.”

Nick & Grace | USA

“I was apprehensive about doing the course because of negative experiences my friends had had with other courses. It turned out to be everything I DIDN’T expect – extremely practical and useful – definitely worth doing.”

Alice | France

“It has been an eye-opener for us both and we both feel we appreciate the power and importance of marriage.”

Gerard & Cami | Philippines

“It has been educational and enriching, bringing us closer as a couple and better preparing us for married life. The main highlight for us were the connection rituals.”

Dagma & Jannick | Germany