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Featured Articles

Myths about Arguments : here
Anatomy of an Argument : here
Seven Deadly Habits : here
Autopsy of an Argument : here
Reconciliation : here
Getting Help –> Counsellors : here
The Art of Apology : here

Links & Recommended Reading

Infidelity

Extra-marital Affairs Resource Centre | An infidelity recovery service for couples, including print and digital publications. | www.dearpeggy.com

Not Just Friends | A leading expert on infidelity in the modern age with practical advice on recovery for couples. | www.shirleyglass.com

Addictions

Faithful & True Ministries | Support for those with pornography addiction | www.faithfulandtrueministries.com

For Your Marriage – Addictions |  Tips on spotting trouble and dealing with it from the US Catholic Bishops. | www.foryourmarriage.com

Fight the New Drug | Information and programs to help overcome porn addiction | www.fightthenewdrug.org

Divorce Alternatives

Alexander House | A Catholic, international apostolate dedicated to “proclaiming the beauty, goodness and truth” of God’s design for marriage  | www.thealexanderhouse.org

Divorce Buster | A comprehensive website, including print and digital publications by world-renowned therapist, Michelle Weiner-Davis. | www.divorcebusting.com

The Third Option | Most struggling couples see only two options: Painful marriage or divorce. But there is a Third Option: a way to a better, renewed marriage. | www.thethirdoption.com

Retrouvaille | A program to help couples heal and renew their marriage  | www.retrouvaille.org

Divorce & Annulment

Divorce and the Catholic Church | Q&A booklet from the Australian Catholic Bishops | www.acmfc.org.au

Divorced Catholics | Providing answers and insights for divorced Catholics | www.divorcedcatholic.com

Resources and tips to help couples through those tough times.

Every marriage goes through ups and downs. For some of us, these down times can persist leaving us feeling trapped, helpless and frustrated. Many conclude that the marriage is dead and that their only options are divorce or to live in misery.

Yet there is nearly always something you can do to alleviate your situation. …

Courses and Seminars

Research has shown that in many cases of marital stress, marriage education is MORE effective and helpful to couples than counselling.

There are a number of excellent marriage education courses that couples can do that will help you improve your marriage.

  1. SmartLoving BreakThrough workshop is a three hour intensive for individual spouses. 
  2. SmartLoving Marriage seminar requires both to attend but is only available in limited locations and dates.
  3. SmartLoving Engaged Online is also suitable for married couples.
  4. The Marriage Kit online is our SmartLoving content in a secular format for couples available online.

When a Couple’s Course is NOT a good idea.

However, there are a couple of situations where a Marriage education class might aggravate your situation. If any of the following apply to you we’d recommend you postpone your plans for marriage education while you pursue other alternatives:

  1. One spouse is vigorously opposed to attending the marriage education class. We’ve seen it many times in our courses; one spouse desperately wants to come and nags or manoeuvres the other spouse to get them there. It’s almost always a disaster – no one likes to be manipulated so please don’t do this. It is not fair to your spouse and will not help improve your marriage. Moreover, it will prejudice your spouse against marriage education in the future.
  2. One or both spouses has an addiction or mental illness. In this circumstance, you really need professional counselling to give you individual support. It doesn’t exclude the possibility of marriage education later and in fact, many counsellors will refer their couples to a marriage education class once the relationship is stabilised.
  3. There is systematic physical or sexual abuse. If you are victim of violence, you need to get out before you can do anything for the marriage. When there is such an abuse of power in the relationship, professional help is needed to break the pattern before a marriage education class will help.
  4. There is an ongoing affair. When there is a third party operating in the marriage, working to undermine it, marriage education is not the first priority – reestablishing the boundaries to protect the marriage needs to happen first. Again, sometimes professional assistance may be required to stablise the marriage and reestablish these healthy boundaries.

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