Hug to Diffuse

When the tension mounts, what can couples do to restore their harmony? The Connect Hug is simple and powerful. Learn how to hug to diffuse.

It’s happening again. Suddenly we find ourselves in that all too familiar territory:  we’re gridlocked in an argument about goodness-knows-what and it’s starting to turn nasty.

Our spirits deflate. We both want it to be different but backing down seems harder than it should be.

At times like this, couples need a circuit breaker; a fail-safe practice that will short-circuit the argument and reset their relationship before it escalates to shouting and serious offense.

The Connect Hug is simple, effective and easy.

Couples simply hold each other close and breathe. Before long, the physical proximity melts the ice between us.

With each deep breath, the tension dissipates and with it, our will to sustain the argument.

How long to hug?

When couples ask us how long they should Connect Hug, our answer is simply: until you both feel your bodies relax and the emotional openness restored. Surprisingly, this doesn’t take as long as one might think, usually only a minute or so.

All it takes is for one of us to make the request: “Can I have a hug?”

Even when it starts reluctantly or awkwardly, the magic of the Connect Hug works because the couple are sincere about their relationship and committed to their unity. Often, the argument becomes irrelevant afterwards, or if they do re-approach the discussion, they do so with calm and efficiency.

So when the tension is high, hug to diffuse!