ReflectSeparately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions.
Write some notes and then share your answers more fully with your spouse.
Children – what a glorious gift.
How could You ever be so good to me!
I do, though, need to appreciate them more in Your name Father.
They need to feel how much You love them through me.
I sometimes get so involved in doing things for them
that I’m not personally present to them.
Forgive me for that.
Let Jesus ask for the forgiveness I know You will grant me. Amen.
Begin to notice how you communicate with your child/children. Notice how your “communication behavior” with them reflects the same strengths and weaknesses you have in your communication with your spouse.
- Put down each child’s name. Rate your communication level with each from 1 to 10, with 1 being low and 10 high.
- Identify the source of the level, e.g. the child is most/least like you; most/least like your spouse; the child is closest/furtherest from you/your spouse.
- Identify similarities between the way you treat each child and the way you treat your spouse.