Is marriage meant to make you happy?


Byron & Francine Pirola discuss the purpose of marriage is this excerpt from The Marriage Kit, an online course for married couples.

Marriage isn’t meant to make us happy. Rather, marriage is meant to help us grow and ultimately that leads to fulfilment. There can be no fulfilment without growth.

We all seek happiness, but happiness is a superficial, short-lived emotion. It comes and goes in response to the circumstances of our lives.

On the other hand, fulfilment is more of a sustained state and usually, it results in positive emotions like happiness. It’s a higher goal than simply ‘being happy’.


The take home message: marriage is all about growth. Growing as individuals, growing in love, growing in virtue, growing in faith.

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Francine & Byron Pirola

Francine & Byron Pirola are the founders and principal authors of the SmartLoving series. They are passionate about living Catholic marriage to the full and helping couples reach their marital potential. They have been married since 1988 and have five children. Their articles may be reproduced for non commercial purposes with appropriate acknowledgement and back links. For Media Enquiries Please Contact us here

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