ReflectSeparately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions.
Write some notes and then share your answers more fully with your spouse.
I want to spend these moments thanking You, Father
for all the goodness You have placed in my life.
Most especially, I want to express my deepest appreciation for the Eucharist.
What a gift! I guess what most takes my breath away
is that You didn’t make it a once in a life time thing
but that I could receive Your Son’s Body and Blood any time I wished.
I ask Jesus to seek from You a yearning for this Sacrament.
- Select a subject mutually important to you both. Each should plan to write a letter during the following five days and plan time to read and to share. Make sure that the topic is one which is central to your relationship. It need not be one on which you have agreement. In fact it would be well to select an issue in which you either don’t know what each other thinks and feels or an area where you know your thoughts, opinions and feelings are in some opposition.
- Write a letter on that topic in an atmosphere of love and trust. Focus on the goodness of the one to whom you write, on your love and caring for one another. In the letter, express this love and trust often, not to manipulate the acceptance of your thoughts but to proclaim your love for him/her. Agreement is not the issue here. Your opinions may still be the same afterward. It is the atmosphere of listening, self-revelation, acceptance of personhood, and love which are important. These will serve as a tremendous source of strengthening and energizing for your self images and or your relationship.
- Arrange a time during which you can be alone, perhaps at a park or a place special to your relationship. Plan plenty of time. Read the letter aloud to the one you love, using the gift of eyes, touch, and voice quality to convey your love and affection.
- Talk with one another about the feelings you experienced while writing; while reading; while listening.