Love Making
Sexual Response
Human sexuality is a complex and varied experience; every person experiences their femininity or masculinity uniquely. Moreover, this experience will evolve over the years of a person’s life, and at times bring more grief than joy.
Sexual problems are not only common, they are to be expected. Unfortunately, many couples have been misinformed about their sexuality, leading to unnecessary embarrassment and loss of intimacy.
There are three critical dimensions to human sexual response: desire, arousal and climax. More details about these issues can be found in further posts. They attempt to address some of the most commonly misunderstood aspects human sexual response and offer practical ways for couples to respond to any difficulty they may face.
Amazing how many things can revolve around sex. You never want it to be used a manipulative tool or anything like that. It is really hard to rebuild your sexual bond after that.
I think, it´s great, that you refer to well known experts like Dr. Gottman. An important “against the mainstream” athority in questions e.g. of “desire” in my view is Dr. David Schnarch:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intimacy-and-desire/201105/normal-healthy-couples-have-sexual-desire-problems
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intimacy-and-desire/201106/decoding-the-logic-sexual-relationships
It would be great, if Fr. Chuck´s gorgeous concept of intimacy could be referred to Schnarch´s research on intimacy and desire.
Thanks eichikarl.
We’re big fans of David Schnarch and have incorporated many of his concepts into this series. Click the links to get more info.
Oh Fran – so spot on – love it xxxx