In what ways can I improve my behaviors and attitudes for the benefit of both my spouse and my family?
ReflectSeparately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions.
Write some notes and then share your answers more fully with your spouse.
I know You want the best for me.
You are the greatest Father in the world
and You have the highest hopes and ambitions for me.
Father, a lot of times I settle for what I think life is all about.
I do my thing. Help me to do Your thing.
Let me take on Your plans for me.
I am going to send Your Son to speak for me. Amen.
1. In the left hand column below, put an (s) next to the behaviors/attitudes which you think you demonstrate regularly toward your spouse; put a (c) next to the behaviors/attitudes which you think you demonstrate regularly toward your child/children.
On the right hand side of each column below, put an (X) next to any behaviors/attitudes which you would like to maintain or improve on, in yourself as a spouse/parent; put an (O) next to any behaviors/attitudes you would like to eliminate in yourself as a spouse/parent.
|___ firm/rigid||___ easy-going|
|___ honest||___ affectionate|
|___ understanding||___ pushy|
|___ consistent||___ a good listener|
|___ generous with my time||___ unsure|
|___ patient||___ pressured|
|___ ambitious||___ prayerful|
|___ fun-loving||___ independent|
|___ sensitive||___ logical|
|___ possessive||___ talkative|
|___ permissive||___ joyful|
|___ tender||___ protective|
|___ inconsistent||___ frustrated|
|___ comforting||___ angry|
|___ organized||___ trusting|
|___ forgiving||___ anxious|
|___ affirming||___ critical|
|___ sympathetic||___ dutiful|
|___ pessimistic||___ flexible|
2. Take the three most significant and spell them out in great detail.