You Fall In Love with the Front End of the Puppy
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There are a lot of ways to explain why commitment is so important in lasting love—especially in marriage. This is my favorite.
Think about puppy love. Many people understand what it is like to have a strong, immediate reaction of attraction to a puppy—even cat lovers can understand this. If it’s a puppy you end up with, it’s not an exaggeration to say you fell in love with that dog. How’s this illustrate the importance of commitment? Simple.
You fall in love with the front end of the puppy, but every puppy has a back end. Think about what a successful relationship with a dog requires. You don’t have to work out how to be attracted to the cute end of the dog. You have to work out, and work through, how to handle—together—the back end. What does that require?
Without going into any more detail that this illustration requires, the back end of the puppy is what takes the most work, especially in the early stage of the relationship, and it’s always the least fun part of the relationship.The back end is a lot about regulating time and place. As in where and when. It all takes effort.
Even when that’s all working well and the expectations are clear, the back end of the dog is still the part that requires you to sometimes go outside when it’s cold, or to carry around little bags as you walk around the neighborhood (or really large bags in some cases), or to hold your nose.
The back end requires you to accommodate your life to the urgent needs of the dog. That requires commitment because it involves investment and ongoing sensitivity to the needs of another.
Of course you have to feed the cute end, not just deal with the back end. That also requires commitment but let’s keep the metaphor pure, here. As pure as the “business” end of the dog can be. So, if you are committed to loving someone, realize that part of the whole deal is the work that the back end of the relationship takes.
Lasting love is not only about the cute and easy part. Sometimes love stinks. Sometimes you have to pick up something you’d rather let lie. And sometimes you really ought to leave something behind.
Love takes commitment, just like the back end of the puppy.
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