Long Live the Ten-Second Kiss

By Francine & Byron Pirola | April 4, 2025 |

In a world that pulls couples apart, a simple ten-second kiss IS a small act of love with big rewards.  Regular readers of SmartLoving will be familiar with the Connect Kiss – a daily connection ritual we promote to couples. It consists of a smoochy kiss that lasts at least ten seconds.  We recommend it…

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What Do Men Want?

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 31, 2015 |

Part 3 in the Quest for Happiness Series In all the discussions about what makes a wife happy (see Smart Loving What Women Really Want & The Equality Myth), it strikes us that the happiness of husbands is often overlooked. Actually, it’s rarely on the agenda. That in itself says something about us as a…

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What Women Really Want

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 30, 2015 |

Part 2 of the Quest for Happiness Series If equality in work isn’t the answer for making happy wives (see Smart Loving, The Equality Myth), what is? According to the same study that looked at the division of labour*, the best predictor of marital satisfaction among wives was emotional connection. ‘Emotion work’, as psychologists call…

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The Equality Myth

By Francine & Byron Pirola | December 28, 2015 |

Part 1 of the Quest for Happiness Series Inequality in the division of labour at home has long been a sore point for married women. In theory, the egalitarian model of the modern dual-income, shared-homemaking marriage should solve this problem; as women move into the paid workforce, men would assume more responsibility at home.Right? This…

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What Women Want

By jdkd | October 16, 2015 |

In her typical engaging style and with practical suggestions, Karen Doyle addresses the Young Men of God conference on What Women Want. For the audio file and for more great Catholic content, visit Being Catholic.

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How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

By Guest Author | October 3, 2015
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Shaunti Feldhahn is an author and social researcher who specialises in marital relationships. In this article she responds to a question from a female reader about how often men need sex: “Even though I can go weeks or months and not miss it, he says he wants me to want it like he does.” Shaunti…

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Why Women Leave Men They Love

By Guest Author | March 5, 2015 |

Justice Schanfarber | The Good Men Project | Read the full article here As a marriage counsellor working with men and women in relationship crisis, I help clients navigate numerous marriage counselling issues. While many situations are complex, there’s one profoundly simple truth that men need to know. It’s this — Women leave men they love.…

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What my girly novels taught me about love

By Agi Reefman | July 2, 2014 |

Selected from Agi Reefman’s blog: New Hope Talks When I wrote this post I was eyeball deep in some heavy theology. Seeing as my brain was pretty much fried from all that reading, I put away my usual reading material for some easy fluffy chick lit. You know the kind: boy meets girl, love at…

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