Marriage Enemy #1: Lethargy

We asked a marriage counselor friend of ours about why a marriage fails. We were expecting a long complex answer so we already had a bottle of wine open. Yet her answer was short. According to her, if there are no addictions or mental illness involved, then most marriages fail through simple, straight-forward laziness. Almost…

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Conscious Recoupling

When Gwenyth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced their intention to ‘consciously uncouple’ earlier in 2014, it was not their divorce that captured public attention, but the unusual phrasing. However, the real news that never makes the headlines is not who or how many couples ‘consciously uncouple’ or divorce, but how many don’t. Any couple who…

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What Me Worry

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When Worry is a Way of Life “I’m so worried one of my kids will get sick and die.” “I have to hold my grandson’s hand every second or some pedophile will come and kidnap him.” “You got to move that picture hanging on the wall next to our grandson’s bed because I can’t sleep worrying…

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Anxiety Control

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High Anxiety: Seeking Sanity when the World  Goes Nuts “It’s like a mystery novel around here.”  George explained, frustrated with the corporate restructuring his company was going through.  “…And Then There Were None.”                 George’s company was facing layoffs.  Every day, he came into work to find that yet another colleague had gotten the axe. …

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Have you been lied to? Part I

Re-posted with permission by Agi Reefman Last week on my blog post, one person asked the question, “What’s this lie you’re talking about?” It was an excellent question which really made me think about the most straight forward way of answering to answer it. A Lap Dance And it reminded me of a Facebook post I’d…

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Serial Dating or Smart Dating?

Why is it that as a society we only get serious about saving a marriage when it is under threat of ending? What might happen if we paid as much attention to the front end of the marriage, at the second or third date? Persuing Romance The reality is that most people will marry someone…

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Why you don’t know he’s bad for you

February 20, 2014 By Agi Reefman Most of us have either seen it or done it. The great girl who is going out with (to put it nicely) a guy who’s in need of some personal growth. “What does she see in him?” You ask. “She can do so much better!” “Why does she let…

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Two of Us: Negativity

An exercise to help us grow in the area of ‘affirmation’ rather than ‘criticism’ to enrich our relationships rather than grid-lock them. Reflect Separately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions. Write some notes and then share your answers more fully with your spouse.   Prayer Father,  You have chosen me to…

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