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Listening is the Music of Love
One of the most supremely loving gestures we can give another person is to truly listen to them. Yet for most of us, being genuinely listened to is a rare experience. Why is something so simple so hard to give? We remember those early romance days so clearly. Living in two different cities, we relied…
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Listening for true understanding
In our previous column, we made the point that marriage is like a contact sport, and that the ‘game’ is more fun, and certainly safer, when we both understand the rules of engagement. We outlined three rules for the Speaker and now we’d like to do the same for the Listener. In any intimate conversation,…
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Empathetic Listening
You can’t be a good communicator without being a superlative listener. Ron and Kathy Feher discuss how couples can learn to listen like a professional and enhance their connection.
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Listening with the Heart – Members Content
The first step towards the kind of active listening that will facilitate an experience of intimacy is to examine some of our normal responses to the other’s personal sharing of what’s going on inside them. Resistance People tend to block the sharing of their emotions when the listener reacts defensively or signals that they don’t…
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Habit Makers, Habit Breakers
Do your evenings ever disappear into the couch, your phone, and a half-watched Netflix show? We realised ours had—and something important was quietly missing. In this post, we explore how small, intentional rituals can transform ordinary routines into meaningful couple time… without adding another thing to your to-do list. Lately, we’ve slipped into a not-so-good…
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TIME – The Currency of Relationships
There’s an old adage in the world of parenting advice: Kids spell LOVE as T.I.M.E. Kids don’t need things nearly much as they need a parent’s attention and availability. It’s a classic mistake we make all too often; we give them stuff we’ve bought instead of the thing they most need from us – our…
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Three Tools for Better Conflict
Every marriage has conflict. Two imperfect people sharing a home and dealing with all the pressures of modern life? It’s inevitable! But conflict doesn’t have to be destructive. Whether it’s the sting of misunderstanding, silent withdrawal, passive aggression or a shouty, foot-stomping exchange, conflict shows up regularly in married life. Busyness, stress, and insufficient…
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Marriage Kit Jubilee
Jubilee 2025 – Year of Hope Re-establish a proper relationship with God and with one another with our FREE courses Throughout the year, we’ll be offering FREE access to one of the SmartLoving courses. Check this page regularly for our latest offering. In honour of the Catholic Church’s Jubilee Year, which is marked as a…
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Breakthrough Jubilee Offer
Jubilee 2025 – Year of Hope Re-establish a proper relationship with God and with one another with our FREE courses Throughout the year, we’ll be offering FREE access to one of the SmartLoving courses. Check this page regularly for our latest offering. In honour of the Catholic Church’s Jubilee Year, which is marked as a…
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Editing Ourselves
Balancing honesty with kindness & Effectiveness We live in a culture that champions unfiltered self-expression. We’re told that honesty is the ultimate virtue in relationships – that I have a right to say what’s on my mind, whenever I feel like it, and that our spouse should be ready to listen. It’s a message that…
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