For Marriage and Country
Maybe it’s just us, but it often feels like the world around us is getting more hysterical about things we once would have taken in our stride. A misspoken word, a
Making your marriage last the distance
Falling in love is easy! Staying in love requires deliberate effort. We all start out in marriage full of hope, brimming with love and unbounded generosity towards our spouse. Yet
The Midlife Crisis Reinvented
Recently we were talking with a woman whose husband is in the grip of a midlife meltdown. Actually, she wasn’t the first; there have been a string of them over the
The Daily ‘I do’ When You’d Rather Not
At a recent business conference, a speaker made an offhand remark about having to recommit to her marriage vows every day. It was in the context of a discussion about the
Committed to being Committed
A lot has changed over the past few decades – our attitudes to commitment among them. Whether the discussion is about company-employee relationships, friendships, volunteers, religious practice or marriage, it seems
Experience is not always the best teacher
A lot of people think that having a few failed relationships is helpful in preparing them for marriage. Some even go so far as seeing the first marriage itself as a
Mating Market – Sheila Shortages and Man Droughts
In the modern Mating Market every one is a loser. When it comes to love and the quest to find a life-long mate, it is common to talk of being ‘in
Avoiding the Divorce Flu
A new study has documented what counsellors have observed for years: divorce is contagious. Just like a virus, divorce spreads among social networks and influences marriages among the divorcing couple’s friends,
The Growth Mindset
At our daughter’s recent award assembly, the school Principal addressed the topic of ‘Growth Mindset’. She noted how education was more than merely preparing students for exams and aiming for maximum
Knot Yet! #5: Responsibility Phobia
What comes first, maturity or the responsibility? In the world of adultesence, the absence of the necessity to be responsible, delays maturity.Most of us look back at adolesence and shiver – it’s a