Knot Yet! #4: Marriage Horizon

Marriage and family are well known to have a ‘civilising’ influence on participants. We really noticed this impact in ourselves when we had our first child. All of a sudden we cared about local issues, like council decisions to remove trees or to upgrade playgrounds. We started taking more responsibility for maintaining the garden outside…

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Knot Yet! #3: Ticking Clocks

We’re all familiar with the proverbial ‘biological clock’ that relentlessly taunts childless women reminding them that their time is running out. It’s one of the reasons that women get serious about getting married and starting a family (or just starting a family) at a younger age than do men. Some recent research however has highlighted…

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Knot Yet #8: Finding Myself

When emerging adults in committed relationships are polled about why they haven’t yet married, a common theme is ‘the need to find themselves’. They don’t feel ready to give themselves totally in a marriage relationship because they are uncertain about their self-identity. Their comments reflect an important social belief: People should be formed in their…

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Knot Yet! #7: The Continuity Factor

Many people assume that what they do as singles will not affect their future marriage relationship. They see single life as the opportunity to ‘have some fun’ and ‘live it up’ before they ‘settle down’ to marriage. Interestingly, recent research has given substance to what many commentators have been saying for decades: how one lives…

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Knot Yet! #6: The Marriage Drain Myth

“You’re throwing your life away!”, was the message one bride in her early twenties was told. Many people delay marriage, and discourage other young would-be newly weds, because they believe that marriage demands more than it gives. There is a persistent perception that being single and uncommitted (or in a relationship but still uncommitted) protects…

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