The wedding liturgy is the most important part of your wedding day. This is the time when you promise to give yourselves to each other for life. It is more important than the reception, rehearsal dinner, or even what you will wear. It deserves your careful planning so that it is meaningful and memorable.
The Catholic Wedding Ceremony has two forms. Both have a Liturgy of the Word (Readings from Scripture) and Rite of Marriage (Vows). A Nuptial Mass also has a Liturgy of the Eucharist (Communion).
Generally speaking, the Wedding Ceremony has some flexibility to incorporate special cultural traditions. Whatever it is that you would like to include, your celebrant will be best placed to advise you on the appropriate time to incorporate those traditions.
Which form is right for you?
If both families are Catholics, many engaged couples choose the Nuptial Mass as the majority of their guests will be familiar with the Catholic traditions and will go to Communion. In this case, the celebrant must be a Priest and not a Deacon. When one fiancé is not Catholic many of the guests will not be Catholic, or the Catholic fiance is not an active Mass-goer, couples are usually directed to the Wedding Ceremony (without Communion) as they wish to begin their marriage in unity.
How to use this Page
This page is a general guide for planning a wedding. Your celebrant is the best person to answer any questions you have and advise you on parish policies around music, decorations, including non-catholic guests and incorporating important cultural traditions.
One of the most important selections you and your fiance will make is choosing the readings. They set the tone for the ceremony and proclaims God’s love for marriage and to your hopes for the first day of your marriage. Check with your celebrant about which translation to use for the scripture readings as this varies from country to country. Keep in mind, if you have your wedding on a Saturday night or Sunday, you may not be able to choose the readings, but use the readings from the Mass of that Weekend instead. Your celebrant can advise you of this.
The most important selection of the Ceremony is the Vows. These are the words by which the Sacrament of Marriage is conferred and so the Church does not allow a couple to write their own vows but does have some options to choose from in the wording and expressing them.
Use this as a basis for starting the conversation between you and your fiance about planning the wedding. If you can go to your celebrant with some things picked out, they will appreciate the initiative and help you with other details like the Liturgy of the Eucharist and Prayers of the Faithful.
Below is a PDF form for you to print out when planning your liturgy if you prefer working on paper.
The Catholic Wedding Ceremony
This is the basic form of the Catholic Wedding Nuptial Mass.
- Entrance Rite:
- Entrance Song/Music
- Greeting
- Opening Prayer
- Gloria
- Liturgy of the Word:
- First Reading
- Responsorial Psalm
- Second Reading
- Gospel Acclamation
- Gospel Reading
- Homily
- Liturgy of the Sacrament:
- Rite of Marriage
- Prayers of the Faithful
- Liturgy of the Eucharist:
- Offertory/Preparation of the Gifts
- Prayer over the Gifts
- Preface
- Eucharistic Prayer
- The Lord’s Prayer (Our Father)
- Nuptial Blessing
- Sign of Peace
- Communion
- Prayer after Communion
- Conclusion:
- Final Blessing
- Signing the Register
- Recessional Song/Music
Entrance Hymn & Procession
Greeting
All make the sign of the Cross +
Celebrant: In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
R: Amen.
- Greeting 1: Celebrant: The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit, be with you all.
- Greeting 2: Celebrant: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
- Greeting 3:The Lord be with you.
R: And with your spirit.
The Celebrant may briefly introduce the Ceremony here.
Collect
Celebrant: Let us Pray.
- Option 1: Celebrant: Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 2: Celebrant: O God, who in creating the human race willed that man and woman should be one, join, we pray, in a bond of inseparable love these your servants who are to be united in the covenant of marriage, so that, as you make their love fruitful, they may become, by your grace, witnesses to charity itself. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 3: Celebrant: Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness pour out your grace on these your servants N. and N., that, coming together before your altar, they may be confirmed in love for one another, Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 4: Celebrant: O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage, by so great a mystery that in the wedding covenant you foreshadow the Sacrament of Christ and his Church, grant, we pray, to these your servants, that what they receive in faith they may live out in deeds. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 5: Celebrant: Grant, we pray, almighty God, that these your servants, now be joined by the Sacrament of Matrimony, may grow in the faith they profess and enrich your Church with faithful offspring. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 6: Celebrant: O God, who since the beginning of the world has blessed the increase of offspring, show favour to our supplications and pour forth the help of your blessing on these your servants N. and N., so that in the union of Marriage they may be bound together in mutual affection in likeness of mind and in shared holiness. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
R: Amen.
First Reading:
- Genesis 1:26-28, 31– Male and female he created them.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Genesis 2:18-24 – The two of them become one body.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Genesis 24:48-51, 58-67 – In his love for Rebekah, Isaac found solace after the death of his mother.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Tobit 7:6-14 – May the Lord of heaven prosper you both. May he grant you mercy and peace.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Tobit 8:4-8 – Allow us to live together to a happy old age.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Proverbs 31:10-13,19-20, 30-31 – The woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Song of Songs 2:8-10, 14, 16; 8:6-7– Stern as death is love.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Sirach 26:1-4, 13-16 – Like the sun rising in the Lord’s heavens, the beauty of a virtuous wife is the radiance of her home.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Jeremiah 31:31-32,33-34 – I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
Responsorial Psalm:
- Psalm 33 – R: The earth is full of the goodness of the Lord.For the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 34 – R: I will bless the Lord at all times.
- Psalm 103 – R: The Lord is kind and merciful. OR R: The Lord’s kindness is everlasting to those who fear him.
- Psalm 112 – R: Blessed the man who greatly delights in the Lord’s commands. OR R: AlleluiaFor the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 128 – Blessed are those who fear the Lord. OR R: See how the Lord blesses those who fear him.For the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 145 – R: How good is the Lord to all.For the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 148 – R: Let us praise the name of the Lord. OR R: Alleluia.For the full Psalm, click here.
Second Reading:
- Romans 8:3-31, 35, 37-39 – What will separate us from the love of Christ?For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Romans 12:1-2,9-18 – Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God.SHORT VERSION: Romans 12:1-2, 9-13.
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Romans 15:1-3, 5-7, 13 – Welcome one another as Christ welcomed you.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 Corinthians 6:13-15, 17-20 – Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 Corinthians 12:31-13:8 – If I do not have love, I gain nothing.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Ephesians 4:1-6 – One Body and one Spirit.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Ephesians 5:2, 21-33 – This is a great mystery but I speak in reference to Christ and the Church.SHORT VERSION: Ephesians 5:2, 25-32.
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Philippians 4:4-9 – The God of peace will be with you.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Colossians 3:12-17 – And over all these put on love, that is, the bond of perfection.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Hebrews 13:1-4, 5-6 – Let marriage be held in honour by all.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 Peter 3:1-9 – Be of one mind, sympathetic, loving toward one another.
- 1 John 3:18-24 – Love in deed and in truth.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 John 4:7-12 – God is Love.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Revelation 19:1, 5-9 – Blessed are those who have been called to the wedding feast of the Lamb.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
Gospel:
- Matthew 5:1-12 – Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 3:13-16 – You are the light of the world.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 7:21, 24-29 – A wise man built his house on rock.SHORT VERSION: Matthew 7:21, 24-25
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 19-3-6 – What God has united, man must not separate.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 22:35-40 – This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Mark 10:6-9 – They are no longer two, but one flesh.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 2:1-11 – Jesus did this as the beginning of his signs in Cana in Galilee.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 15:9-12 – Remain in my love.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 15:12-16 – This is my commandment: love one another.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 17:20-26 – That they may be brought to perfection as one.SHORT VERSION: John 17:20-23
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
Homily
Given by the celebrant.
Introduction:
The celebrant introduces the Rite with one of the following options. These are guides only and check with your celebrant what specific text your local diocese prefers.
- Option 1: My dear friends, you have come together in this church so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church’s minister and his community. Christ abundantly blesses this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by a special sacrament so that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so, in the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.
- Option 2: N. and N., you have come together in this church so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church’s minister and this community. Christ abundantly this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by a special sacrament so that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so, in the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.
Statement of intentions:
The celebrant then questions the couple about their freedom of choice, faithfulness to each other and acceptance of children. Each answer separately.
- Option 1 (Australia)Celebrant: N. and N., have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourself to each other in marriage?
Bridegroom & Bride: I have.Celebrant: Will you love and honour each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?
Bridegroom & Bride: I will.Celebrant: Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?
Bridegroom and Bride: I will. - Option 2 (UK)Celebrant: N. and N., I shall now ask you if you freely undertake the obligations of marriage, and to state that there is no legal impediment to your marriage. Are you ready freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.Celebrant: Are you ready to love and honour each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.Celebrant: Are you ready to accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am. - Option 3 (USA)Celebrant: N. and N., have you come here to enter into marriage, without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?
Bridegroom & Bride: I have.Celebrant: Are you prepared, as you follow the path of Marriage, to love and honour each other so long as you both shall live?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.Celebrant: Are you prepared to accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.
Giving of Consent:
Celebrant: Since it is your intention to enter into marriage, join your right hands, and declare your consent before God and his Church.
Bride and Bridegroom join right hands.
- Option 1:
Bridegroom: I, N., take you, N. to be my wife, I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and honour you all the days of my life.Bride: I, N., take you, N. to be my husband, I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and honour you all the days of my life.
- Option 2:
Bridegroom: I, N., take you, N. to be my lawful wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.Bride: I, N., take you, N. to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.
- Option 3:
Celebrant to Bridegroom: N. will you take N. here present for your lawful wife, according to the rite of our Holy Mother Church?
Bridegroom: I will.Celebrant to Bride: N. will you take N. here present for your lawful husband, according to the rite of our Holy Mother Church?
Bride: I will.They join right hands.Bridegroom: I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, N. do take thee, N. to be my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.
Bride: I, N. take thee, N. to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.
- Option 4:
Celebrant to bridegroom: N., do you take N., to be your wife? Do you promise to be faithful to her in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love her and honour her all the days of her life?
Bridegroom: I do.Celebrant to Bride: N., do you take N., to be your husband? Do you promise to be faithful to him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love him and honour him all the days of his life?
Bride: I do.
Reception of Consent:
- Option 1 (Australia & USA)Celebrant: You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you with both his blessings. What God has joined, men must not divide.
- Option 2 (UK)Celebrant: You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you both with blessings. What God has joined, let no man put asunder.
Blessing and Exchange of Rings
The celebrant blesses the rings with something like the suggested blessings. Check with your celebrant for the preferred text.
- Option 1:Celebrant: May the Lord bless + these rings which you give to each other as a sign of love and fidelity. R: Amen
- Option 2:Celebrant: Lord, bless these rings which we bless + in your name. Grant that those who wear them may always have a deep faith in each other. May they do your will and always live together in peace, goodwill, and love. We ask this through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
- Option 3:Celebrant: Lord, Bless + and consecrate N. and N. in their love for each other. May these rings be a symbol of true faith in each other and always remind them of their love. We ask this through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
Husband places wife’s ring on her finger:
Bridegroom: N., take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
Wife places husband’s ring on his finger:
Bride: N., take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
Also known as the ‘Universal Prayer’ or ‘Prayers of Intercession’ these are a series of short prayers to pray for the wider community and any special intentions. The response to each of the prayers is typically: “Lord, hear our prayer.”
The “Our Father” is then said or sung by the congregation.
After the Our Father, the celebrant, facing the couple, then invokes God’s blessing.
In the invitation, if one or both of the spouses will not be receiving Communion, the words in parentheses are omitted. In the last paragraph of the prayer, the words in parentheses may be omitted if it seems that circumstances suggest it, for example, if the bride and bridegroom are advanced in years. The bride and bridegroom approach the altar or, if appropriate, they remain at their place and kneel. The Priest, with hands joined, calls upon those present to pray:
- Invitation 1: Celebrant: Dear brothers and sisters, let us humbly pray to the Lord that on these his servants, now married in Christ, he may mercifully pour out the blessing of his grace and make of one heart in love (by the Sacrament of Christ’s Body and Blood) those he has joined by a holy covenant.
- Invitation 2: Celebrant: Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.
- Invitation 3:
Celebrant: Let us pray to the Lord for this bride and groom, who come to the altar as they begin their married life, that (partaking of the Body and Blood of Christ) they may always be bound together by love for one another.
- Invitation 4:
Celebrant: Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the bond of Marriage.
All pray in silence for a while.
The celebrant then stretches out hands in blessing to say or sing one of the following prayers:
- Blessing 1:
Celebrant: O God, who by your mighty power created all things out of nothing, and, when you had set in place the beginnings of the universe, formed man and woman in your own image, making the woman an inseparable helpmate to the man, that they might be no longer two, but one flesh, and taught that what you were pleased to make one must never be divided; O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage by so great a mystery that in the wedding covenant you foreshadowed the Sacrament of Christ and his Church; O God, by whom woman is joined to man and the companionship they had, in the beginning, is endowed with the one blessing not forfeited by original sin nor washed away by the flood. Look now with favour on these your servants, joined together in Marriage, who ask to be strengthened by your blessing. Send down on them the grace of the Holy Spirit and pour your love into their hearts, that they may remain faithful in the Marriage covenant. May the grace of love and peace abide in your daughter [name], and let her always follow the example of those holy women whose praises are sung in the Scriptures. May her husband entrust his heart to her, so that, acknowledging her as his equal and his joint heir to the life of grace, he may show her due honour and cherish her always with the love that Christ has for his Church. And now, Lord, we implore you: may these your servants hold fast to the faith and keep your commandments; made one in the flesh, may they be blameless in all they do; and with the strength that comes from the Gospel, may they bear true witness to Christ before all; (may they be blessed with children, and prove themselves virtuous parents, who live to see their children’s children.) And grant that, reaching at last together the fullness of years for which they hope, they may come to the life of the blessed in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
- Blessing 2:
Celebrant: Holy Father, who formed man in your own image, male and female you created them, so that as husband and wife, united in body and heart, they might fulfill their calling in the world; O God, who, to reveal the great design you formed in your love, willed that the love of spouses for each other should foreshadow the covenant you graciously made with your people, so that, by fulfillment of the sacramental sign, the mystical marriage of Christ with his Church might become manifest in the union of husband and wife among your faithful; Graciously stretch out your right hand over these your servants (N. and N.), we pray, and pour into their hearts the power of the Holy Spirit. Grant, O Lord, that, as they enter upon this sacramental union, they may share with one another the gifts of your love and, by being for each other a sign of your presence, become one heart and one mind. May they also sustain, O Lord, by their deeds the home they are forming (and prepare their children to become members of your heavenly household by raising them in the way of the Gospel). Graciously crown with your blessings your daughter N., so that, by being a good wife (and mother), she may bring warmth to her home with a love that is pure and adorns it with welcoming graciousness. Bestow a heavenly blessing also, O Lord, on N., your servant, that he may be a worthy, good and faithful husband (and a provident father). Grant, holy Father, that, desiring to approach your table as a couple joined in Marriage in your presence, they may one day have the joy of taking part in your great banquet in heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
- Blessing 3:
Holy Father, maker of the whole world, who created man and woman in your own image and willed that their union be crowned with your blessing, we humbly beseech you for these your servants, who are joined today in the Sacrament of Matrimony. May your abundant blessing, Lord, come down upon this bride, N., and upon N., her companion for life, and may the power of your Holy Spirit set their hearts aflame from on high, so that, living out together the gift of Matrimony, they may (adorn their family with children and) enrich the Church. In happiness may they praise you, O Lord, in sorrow may they seek you out; may they have the joy of your presence to assist them in their toil, and know that you are near to comfort them in their need; let them pray to you in the holy assembly and bear witness to you in the world, and after a happy old age, together with the circle of friends that surrounds them, may they come to the Kingdom of Heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
At this point, the celebrant gives a solemn blessing, said or sung.
Solemn Blessing
Celebrant: The Lord be with you.
R: And with your spirit.
Celebrant: Bow down for the blessing.
To the Bridegroom and Bride:
- Option 1:Celebrant: May God the eternal Father keep you of one heart in love for one another, that the peace of Christ may dwell in you and abide always in your home.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May you be blessed in your children, have solace in your friends and enjoy true peace with everyone.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May you be witnesses in the world to God’s charity, so that the afflicted and needy who have known your kindness may one day receive you thankfully into the eternal dwelling of God.
R: Amen.
- Option 2:Celebrant: May God, the almighty Father, give you his joy and bless you (in your children).
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May the only Son of God have mercy on you and help you in good times and in bad.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May the Holy Spirit of God always fill your hearts with his love.
R: Amen.
- Option 3
Celebrant: May the Lord Jesus, who was a guest at the wedding in Cana, bless you and your families and friends.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May Jesus, who loved his Church to the end, Always fill your hearts with love.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May he grant that, as you believe in his resurrection, so you may wait for him in joy and peace.
R: Amen.
To all present:
Celebrant: And may almighty God bless all of you,
who are gathered here,
the Father, and the Son + and the Holy Spirit.
At this point, the signing of the registry may take place on a separate table to the altar.
Dismissal:
The Celebrant then says:
Celebrant: Go in peace, glorifying the Lord by your life.
R: Thanks be to God.
Depending on local custom, the celebrant may invite the couple to have their first kiss as a married couple before leaving the sanctuary
Recessional Hymn & Procession
Catholic Nuptial Mass
This is the basic form of the Catholic Wedding Nuptial Mass.
- Entrance Rite:
- Entrance Song/Music
- Greeting
- Opening Prayer
- Gloria
- Liturgy of the Word:
- First Reading
- Responsorial Psalm
- Second Reading
- Gospel Acclamation
- Gospel Reading
- Homily
- Liturgy of the Sacrament:
- Rite of Marriage
- Prayers of the Faithful
- Liturgy of the Eucharist:
- Offertory/Preparation of the Gifts
- Prayer over the Gifts
- Preface
- Eucharistic Prayer
- The Lord’s Prayer (Our Father)
- Nuptial Blessing
- Sign of Peace
- Communion
- Prayer after Communion
- Conclusion:
- Final Blessing
- Signing the Register
- Recessional Song/Music
Entrance Hymn & Procession
Greeting
All make the sign of the Cross +
Celebrant: In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
R: Amen.
- Greeting 1: Celebrant: The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit, be with you all.
- Greeting 2: Celebrant: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
- Greeting 3: The Lord be with you.
R: And with your spirit.
The Celebrant may briefly introduce the Nuptial Mass here.
Gloria
The Gloria is said or Sung as preferred.
Collect
Celebrant: Let us Pray.
- Option 1: Celebrant: Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 2: Celebrant: O God, who in creating the human race willed that man and woman should be one, join, we pray, in a bond of inseparable love these your servants who are to be united in the covenant of marriage, so that, as you make their love fruitful, they may become, by your grace, witnesses to charity itself. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 3: Celebrant: Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness pour out your grace on these your servants N. and N., that, coming together before your altar, they may be confirmed in love for one another, Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 4: Celebrant: O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage, by so great a mystery that in the wedding covenant you foreshadow the Sacrament of Christ and his Church, grant, we pray, to these your servants, that what they receive in faith they may live out in deeds. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 5: Celebrant: Grant, we pray, almighty God, that these your servants, now be joined by the Sacrament of Matrimony, may grow in the faith they profess and enrich your Church with faithful offspring. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
- Option 6: Celebrant: O God, who since the beginning of the world has blessed the increase of offspring, show favour to our supplications and pour forth the help of your blessing on these your servants N. and N., so that in the union of Marriage they may be bound together in mutual affection in likeness of mind and in shared holiness. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
R: Amen.
First Reading:
- Genesis 1:26-28, 31– Male and female he created them.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Genesis 2:18-24 – The two of them become one body.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Genesis 24:48-51, 58-67 – In his love for Rebekah, Isaac found solace after the death of his mother.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Tobit 7:6-14 – May the Lord of heaven prosper you both. May he grant you mercy and peace.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Tobit 8:4-8 – Allow us to live together to a happy old age.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Proverbs 31:10-13,19-20, 30-31 – The woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Song of Songs 2:8-10, 14, 16; 8:6-7– Stern as death is love.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Sirach 26:1-4, 13-16 – Like the sun rising in the Lord’s heavens, the beauty of a virtuous wife is the radiance of her home.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Jeremiah 31:31-32,33-34 – I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
Responsorial Psalm:
- Psalm 33 – R: The earth is full of the goodness of the Lord.For the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 34 – R: I will bless the Lord at all times.
- Psalm 103 – R: The Lord is kind and merciful. OR R: The Lord’s kindness is everlasting to those who fear him.
- Psalm 112 – R: Blessed the man who greatly delights in the Lord’s commands. OR R: AlleluiaFor the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 128 – Blessed are those who fear the Lord. OR R: See how the Lord blesses those who fear him.For the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 145 – R: How good is the Lord to all.For the full Psalm, click here.
- Psalm 148 – R: Let us praise the name of the Lord. OR R: Alleluia.For the full Psalm, click here.
Second Reading:
- Romans 8:3-31, 35, 37-39 – What will separate us from the love of Christ?For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Romans 12:1-2,9-18 – Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God.SHORT VERSION: Romans 12:1-2, 9-13.
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Romans 15:1-3, 5-7, 13 – Welcome one another as Christ welcomed you.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 Corinthians 6:13-15, 17-20 – Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 Corinthians 12:31-13:8 – If I do not have love, I gain nothing.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Ephesians 4:1-6 – One Body and one Spirit.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Ephesians 5:2, 21-33 – This is a great mystery but I speak in reference to Christ and the Church.SHORT VERSION: Ephesians 5:2, 25-32.
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Philippians 4:4-9 – The God of peace will be with you.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Colossians 3:12-17 – And over all these put on love, that is, the bond of perfection.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Hebrews 13:1-4, 5-6 – Let marriage be held in honour by all.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 Peter 3:1-9 – Be of one mind, sympathetic, loving toward one another.
- 1 John 3:18-24 – Love in deed and in truth.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- 1 John 4:7-12 – God is Love.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Revelation 19:1, 5-9 – Blessed are those who have been called to the wedding feast of the Lamb.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
Gospel:
- Matthew 5:1-12 – Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 3:13-16 – You are the light of the world.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 7:21, 24-29 – A wise man built his house on rock.SHORT VERSION: Matthew 7:21, 24-25
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 19-3-6 – What God has united, man must not separate.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Matthew 22:35-40 – This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- Mark 10:6-9 – They are no longer two, but one flesh.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 2:1-11 – Jesus did this as the beginning of his signs in Cana in Galilee.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 15:9-12 – Remain in my love.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 15:12-16 – This is my commandment: love one another.For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
- John 17:20-26 – That they may be brought to perfection as one.SHORT VERSION: John 17:20-23
For the full reading, including a helpful commentary, click here.
Homily
Given by the celebrant.
Introduction:
The celebrant introduces the Rite with one of the following options. These are guides only and check with your celebrant what specific text your local diocese prefers.
- Option 1: My dear friends, you have come together in this church so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church’s minister and his community. Christ abundantly blesses this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by a special sacrament so that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so, in the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.
- Option 2: N. and N., you have come together in this church so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church’s minister and this community. Christ abundantly this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by a special sacrament so that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so, in the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.
Statement of intentions:
The celebrant then questions the couple about their freedom of choice, faithfulness to each other and acceptance of children. Each answer separately.
- Option 1 (Australia)Celebrant: N. and N., have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourself to each other in marriage?
Bridegroom & Bride: I have.Celebrant: Will you love and honour each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?
Bridegroom & Bride: I will.Celebrant: Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?
Bridegroom and Bride: I will. - Option 2 (UK)Celebrant: N. and N., I shall now ask you if you freely undertake the obligations of marriage, and to state that there is no legal impediment to your marriage. Are you ready freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.Celebrant: Are you ready to love and honour each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.Celebrant: Are you ready to accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am. - Option 3 (USA)Celebrant: N. and N., have you come here to enter into marriage, without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?
Bridegroom & Bride: I have.Celebrant: Are you prepared, as you follow the path of Marriage, to love and honour each other so long as you both shall live?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.Celebrant: Are you prepared to accept children lovingly from God and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?
Bridegroom & Bride: I am.
Giving of Consent:
Celebrant: Since it is your intention to enter into marriage, join your right hands, and declare your consent before God and his Church.
Bride and Bridegroom join right hands.
- Option 1:
Bridegroom: I, N., take you, N. to be my wife, I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and honour you all the days of my life.Bride: I, N., take you, N. to be my husband, I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and honour you all the days of my life.
- Option 2:
Bridegroom: I, N., take you, N. to be my lawful wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.Bride: I, N., take you, N. to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.
- Option 3:
Celebrant to Bridegroom: N. will you take N. here present for your lawful wife, according to the rite of our Holy Mother Church?
Bridegroom: I will.Celebrant to Bride: N. will you take N. here present for your lawful husband, according to the rite of our Holy Mother Church?
Bride: I will.They join right hands.Bridegroom: I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, N. do take thee, N. to be my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.
Bride: I, N. take thee, N. to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.
- Option 4:
Celebrant to bridegroom: N., do you take N., to be your wife? Do you promise to be faithful to her in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love her and honour her all the days of her life?
Bridegroom: I do.Celebrant to Bride: N., do you take N., to be your husband? Do you promise to be faithful to him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love him and honour him all the days of his life?
Bride: I do.
Reception of Consent:
- Option 1 (Australia & USA)Celebrant: You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you with both his blessings. What God has joined, men must not divide.
- Option 2 (UK)Celebrant: You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you both with blessings. What God has joined, let no man put asunder.
Blessing and Exchange of Rings
The celebrant blesses the rings with something like the suggested blessings. Check with your celebrant for the preferred text.
- Option 1:Celebrant: May the Lord bless + these rings which you give to each other as a sign of love and fidelity. R: Amen
- Option 2:Celebrant: Lord, bless these rings which we bless + in your name. Grant that those who wear them may always have a deep faith in each other. May they do your will and always live together in peace, goodwill, and love. We ask this through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
- Option 3:Celebrant: Lord, Bless + and consecrate N. and N. in their love for each other. May these rings be a symbol of true faith in each other and always remind them of their love. We ask this through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
Husband places wife’s ring on her finger:
Bridegroom: N., take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
Wife places husband’s ring on his finger:
Bride: N., take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
May be either the “Nicene Creed” or the “Apostles Creed” according to preference.
Only to be said on Sundays or Solemneties.
Also known as the ‘Universal Prayer’ or ‘Prayers of Intercession’ these are a series of short prayers to pray for the wider community and any special intentions. The response to each of the prayers is typically: “Lord, hear our prayer.”
Offertory/Preparation of the Gifts
Some suitable music is appropriate for the procession of the bread and wine to the altar.
Prayer over the Gifts
- Option 1:Celebrant: Receive, we pray, O Lord, the offering made on this occasion of the sealing of the sacred bond of Marriage, and, just as your goodness is its origin, may your providence guide its course, Through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
- Option 2:Celebrant: Receive in your kindness, Lord, the offerings we bring in gladness before you, and in your fatherly love watch over those you have joined in a sacramental covenant. Through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
- Option 3:
Celebrant: Show favour to our supplications, O Lord, and receive with kindly countenance the oblations we offer you for these your servants, joined now in a holy covenant, that through these mysteries they may be strengthened in love for one another and for you. Through Christ our Lord. R: Amen.
Preface
- Option 1:
Celebrant: It is truly right and just, our duty and salvation, always and everywhere to give you thanks, Lord, holy Father, almighty and eternal God. For you have forged the covenant of marriage as a sweet yoke of harmony and an unbreakable bond of peace, so that the chase and fruitful love of Holy Matrimony may serve to increase the children you adopt as your own.
By your providence and grace, O Lord, you accomplish the wonder of this twofold design: that, while the birth of children brings beauty to the world, the rebirth in Baptism gives increase to the Church, through Christ our Lord. Through him, with the Angels and all the Saints, we sing the hymn of your praise, as without end we acclaim:
- Option 2:Celebrant: It is truly right and just, our duty and salvation, always and everywhere to give you thanks, Lord, holy Father, almighty and eternal God. For you have forged the covenant of marriage as a sweet yoke of harmony and an unbreakable bond of peace, so that the chase and fruitful love of Holy Matrimony may serve to increase the children you adopt as your own. For in him you have made a new covenant with your people, so that, as you have redeemed man and woman, by the mystery of Christ’s Death and Resurrection, so in Christ, you might make them partakers of divine nature, and joint-heirs with him of heavenly glory. In the union of husband and wife, you give a sign of Christ’s loving gift of grace, so that the Sacrament we celebrate might draw us back more deeply into the wonderous design of your love. And so, with the Angels and all the saints, we praise you, and without end we acclaim:
- Option 3:Celebrant: It is truly right and just, our duty and salvation, always and everywhere to give you thanks, Lord, holy Father, almighty and eternal God. For you willed that the human race, created by the gift of your goodness, should be raised to such high dignity, that in the union of husband and wife you might bestow a true image of your love. For those you created out of charity you call to the law of charity without ceasing and grant them a share in your eternal charity. And so, the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony, as the abiding sign of your own love, consecrates the love of man and woman, through Christ our Lord. Through him, with the Angels and all the Saints, we sing the hymn of your praise, as without end we acclaim:
R: Holy, Holy Holy Lord God of hosts…
Eucharistic Prayer
These are the standard forms used in the Roman Rite. If you are concerned about length, you can discuss which is the best option with your celebrant.
The Lord’s Prayer (Our Father)
The “Our Father” is then said or sung by the congregation.
After the Our Father, the celebrant, facing the couple, then invokes God’s blessing.
In the invitation, if one or both of the spouses will not be receiving Communion, the words in parentheses are omitted. In the last paragraph of the prayer, the words in parentheses may be omitted if it seems that circumstances suggest it, for example, if the bride and bridegroom are advanced in years. The bride and bridegroom approach the altar or, if appropriate, they remain at their place and kneel. The Priest, with hands joined, calls upon those present to pray:
- Invitation 1: Celebrant: Dear brothers and sisters, let us humbly pray to the Lord that on these his servants, now married in Christ, he may mercifully pour out the blessing of his grace and make of one heart in love (by the Sacrament of Christ’s Body and Blood) those he has joined by a holy covenant.
- Invitation 2: Celebrant: Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.
- Invitation 3:
Celebrant: Let us pray to the Lord for this bride and groom, who come to the altar as they begin their married life, that (partaking of the Body and Blood of Christ) they may always be bound together by love for one another.
- Invitation 4:
Celebrant: Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the bond of Marriage.
All pray in silence for a while.
The celebrant then stretches out hands in blessing to say or sing one of the following prayers:
- Blessing 1Celebrant: O God, who by your mighty power created all things out of nothing, and, when you had set in place the beginnings of the universe, formed man and woman in your own image, making the woman an inseparable helpmate to the man, that they might be no longer two, but one flesh, and taught that what you were pleased to make one must never be divided; O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage by so great a mystery that in the wedding covenant you foreshadowed the Sacrament of Christ and his Church; O God, by whom woman is joined to man and the companionship they had, in the beginning, is endowed with the one blessing not forfeited by original sin nor washed away by the flood. Look now with favour on these your servants, joined together in Marriage, who ask to be strengthened by your blessing. Send down on them the grace of the Holy Spirit and pour your love into their hearts, that they may remain faithful in the Marriage covenant. May the grace of love and peace abide in your daughter [name], and let her always follow the example of those holy women whose praises are sung in the Scriptures. May her husband entrust his heart to her, so that, acknowledging her as his equal and his joint heir to the life of grace, he may show her due honour and cherish her always with the love that Christ has for his Church. And now, Lord, we implore you: may these your servants hold fast to the faith and keep your commandments; made one in the flesh, may they be blameless in all they do; and with the strength that comes from the Gospel, may they bear true witness to Christ before all; (may they be blessed with children, and prove themselves virtuous parents, who live to see their children’s children.) And grant that, reaching at last together the fullness of years for which they hope, they may come to the life of the blessed in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
- Blessing 2
Celebrant: Holy Father, who formed man in your own image, male and female you created them, so that as husband and wife, united in body and heart, they might fulfill their calling in the world; O God, who, to reveal the great design you formed in your love, willed that the love of spouses for each other should foreshadow the covenant you graciously made with your people, so that, by fulfillment of the sacramental sign, the mystical marriage of Christ with his Church might become manifest in the union of husband and wife among your faithful; Graciously stretch out your right hand over these your servants (N. and N.), we pray, and pour into their hearts the power of the Holy Spirit. Grant, O Lord, that, as they enter upon this sacramental union, they may share with one another the gifts of your love and, by being for each other a sign of your presence, become one heart and one mind. May they also sustain, O Lord, by their deeds the home they are forming (and prepare their children to become members of your heavenly household by raising them in the way of the Gospel). Graciously crown with your blessings your daughter N., so that, by being a good wife (and mother), she may bring warmth to her home with a love that is pure and adorns it with welcoming graciousness. Bestow a heavenly blessing also, O Lord, on N., your servant, that he may be a worthy, good and faithful husband (and a provident father). Grant, holy Father, that, desiring to approach your table as a couple joined in Marriage in your presence, they may one day have the joy of taking part in your great banquet in heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
- Blessing 3
Celebrant: Holy Father, maker of the whole world, who created man and woman in your own image and willed that their union be crowned with your blessing, we humbly beseech you for these your servants, who are joined today in the Sacrament of Matrimony. May your abundant blessing, Lord, come down upon this bride, N., and upon N., her companion for life, and may the power of your Holy Spirit set their hearts aflame from on high, so that, living out together the gift of Matrimony, they may (adorn their family with children and) enrich the Church. In happiness may they praise you, O Lord, in sorrow may they seek you out; may they have the joy of your presence to assist them in their toil, and know that you are near to comfort them in their need; let them pray to you in the holy assembly and bear witness to you in the world, and after a happy old age, together with the circle of friends that surrounds them, may they come to the Kingdom of Heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
Sign of Peace
The Congregation offers a customary sign of peace to those nearest to them.
Communion
The standard form of the Roman Rite is used here.
After the Celebrant has consumed the Body and Blood of Christ, the congregation may process to receive communion.
A reverent hymn helps to maintain the atmosphere.
Prayer After Communion
After communion, the celebrant then sings or prays one of the following options:
Celebrant: Let us pray.
- Option 1
Celebrant: By the power of this sacrifice, O Lord, accompany with your loving favour what in your providence you have instituted, so as to make of one heart in love, those you have already joined in this holy union and replenished with the one Bread and one Chalice.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
- Option 2
Celebrant: Having been made partakers at your table, we pray, O Lord, that those who are united by the Sacrament of Marriage may always hold fast to you and proclaim your name to the world.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen
- Option 3
Grant, we pray, almighty God, that the power of the Sacrament we have received may find growth in these your servants and that the effects of the sacrifice we have offered may be felt by us all.
Through Christ our Lord.
R: Amen.
At this point, the celebrant gives a solemn blessing, said or sung.
Solemn Blessing
Celebrant: The Lord be with you.
R: And with your spirit.
Celebrant: Bow down for the blessing.
To the Bridegroom and Bride:
- Option 1:Celebrant: May God the eternal Father keep you of one heart in love for one another, that the peace of Christ may dwell in you and abide always in your home.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May you be blessed in your children, have solace in your friends and enjoy true peace with everyone.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May you be witnesses in the world to God’s charity, so that the afflicted and needy who have known your kindness may one day receive you thankfully into the eternal dwelling of God.
R: Amen.
- Option 2:Celebrant: May God, the almighty Father, give you his joy and bless you (in your children).
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May the only Son of God have mercy on you and help you in good times and in bad.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May the Holy Spirit of God always fill your hearts with his love.
R: Amen.
- Option 3
Celebrant: May the Lord Jesus, who was a guest at the wedding in Cana, bless you and your families and friends.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May Jesus, who loved his Church to the end, Always fill your hearts with love.
R: Amen.
Celebrant: May he grant that, as you believe in his resurrection, so you may wait for him in joy and peace.
R: Amen.
To all present:
Celebrant: And may almighty God bless all of you,
who are gathered here,
the Father, and the Son + and the Holy Spirit.
At this point, the signing of the registry may take place on a separate table to the altar.
Dismissal:
The Celebrant then says:
Celebrant: Go in peace, glorifying the Lord by your life.
R: Thanks be to God.
Depending on local custom, the celebrant may invite the couple to have their first kiss as a married couple before leaving the sanctuary
Recessional Hymn & Procession