Love Needs and Busters

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Falling in love is a conversion experience. Most of us start out as self-centred individuals and suddenly find ourselves caring more about someone else’s happiness than we do our own. Whatever may have been the initial attraction, in order to love with an authentic other-centred love we need to know the other; to really understand…

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The Surprise Factor

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Have you ever received an unexpected gift or kind gesture from someone? Remember how it delights you and warms your heart towards that person? Sometimes, it can turn a thoroughly rotten day into a great one. We expect kind gestures to have a positive effect, but is it only about the kindness, or could there…

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Video: Love and Respect

This interview with one of our favourite authors and marriage educators – Emmerson Eggerichs – is brilliantly insightful. In it he discusses how men and women experience love differently and how so many couples get into difficult through a failure to understand this dynamic. He also applies the theory to parenting with some powerful insights.…

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When Desires Don’t Match

When couples marry they rightly expect that there will be a willing participation in a shared life together across a range of activities including sexual intimacy, intimate conversation and parenting for example. But what happens when there is a difference in the desire for the amount or style of one or more of these activities?…

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Early Action Can Make the Difference

Imagine if the only time we serviced our cars was when they broke-down.  We could live like this but we don’t for obvious reasons. So why do we treat our marriages this way? In marriage, couples counselling is like road side assistance for cars… critically important when needed but not always able to solve the…

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The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

In a Stanford Business School talk, author Greg McKeown reflects on what holds capable, driven people from breaking through to the next level. He says that the answer to that question, surprisingly, is success. According to Greg, when executive teams focus on a few things, it leads to success. But success breeds more opportunities and…

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