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As the chill settles in here in the Southern Hemisphere, our thoughts turn to our Northern neighbours who are no doubt enjoying the delights of Spring and the emerging Summer. We’ll be joining our Italian and UK friends next month and by then, we’ll be looking forward to a bit of warmth.

We’ll be presenting at two events if you want to join us:

  1. Diocese of Westminster: Sat July 20th, 1-4pm | Matrimony: The Next Generation | Inservice for Marriage Educators | Flyer  
  2. Diocese of Northampton: Mon-Wed July 22-24 | Summer School for Marriage Educators | Flyer |   [email protected] 

There’s lots to do before then, however… Marriage Seminars by teams in Queensland and North London, and prepping Engaged couples throughout the all our active regions. This week, we’ll be talking with some Filipino contacts about kick starting in SmartLoving in one of the most Catholic countries in the world. Please keep all these endeavours in your prayers.


Francine & Byron Pirola
Directors | Marriage Resource Centre



Break-Through Workshop | May 2013 | Overwhelming feedback for our 3 hour workshop for marriages under stress! Read more here.

Kincumber Marriage Seminar | March 2013 | Hear what some of the 50+ attendees had to say.


SL Workshop: BreakThrough

All couples go through periods where their relationship is strained. Stress, sleep-deprivation, demands from family and work can starve your marriage of the positive energy it needs and deserves. The SmartLoving BreakThrough Workshop is a practical, solution-focussed event for all stages of marriage. Drawing on contemporary research and Catholic theology, this workshop will arm you with skills and insights to transform your relationship into the thriving, joy-filled encounter that it is meant to be. For husbands, wives, couples.

Pennant Hills | Sat, Aug 10 | 2-5pm | Bookings and Information: here

Contact us to host a BreakThrough Workshop in your community | [email protected] | +612 9319 6280

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 From the blog

Fran & Byron Talk on Sacred Sexuality | Energising the Sacrament of Matrimony for prophetic witness in the Church | Workshop at the Great Grace Conference, May 2013

Ten Reasons Why Even a Little Bit of Porn is a Bad Idea | According to Ryan Foley of Covenant Eyes, we have every reason to be alarmed by the invasion of pornography in our homes and culture. With 1 in every 8 internet searches being for erotic content and an estimated value of the mobile porn market over $ 2 billion, this is not only big business, it’s a big problem.

Cohabitation #1: Partner Choice | Barriers to entry are much lower for a cohabitating relationship than marriage. Couples therefore tend to be less discriminating in their choice of partner reasoning… “it’s not as if we’re getting married”. Habits and character traits that a person prospecting for a marriage partner would not normally tolerate, are more easily accommodated in the ‘temporary relationship’ mindset.

Cohabitation #2: Commitment Creep | As couples become more involved, their living arrangements become increasingly entangled. Shared possessions, friends, pets and memories become the glue that holds them together.  Often, without ever consciously deciding to make a permanent commitment, they find themselves reluctant to break up for the simple reason that unravelling their shared life is so complicated.

Cohabitation #3: Commitment Delay | It is well known that the age at first marriage is getting older. Over the past six decades the increase has been steady with median age at first marriage now being in the late twenties. Delaying marriage however has not meant that couples delay forming intimate relationships. In fact, the prevalence of cohabitation accounts for some of this trend of older brides and grooms.

Enlightened Childbirth: Hilarious! | Two husbands set out to prove that their wives are overstating the pains of childbirths. With the help of an obliging doctor who simulates contractions and their wives coaching them, these two husbands are visibly transformed by the experience!

Cohabitation Myth | Many dating couples opt to live together before deciding to marry, because they believe that it is a responsible and prudent thing to do. They reason that cohabitating together will be like a trial marriage.

Two of Us Series

Two of Us: God’s Plan for Sexuality | Christ’s love lived in marriage

Two of Us: Level of Sexual Desire | Exploring the level of sexual desire between husband and wife

Two of Us: Forgiveness | How to forgive with unconditional love

Two of Us: Personality Type | In what way do our personalities impact our relationship?

Two of Us: Communication | How effective is your communication with your spouse?

Two of Us: Need to Love | What level of effort do you put in to loving and being loved by your spouse?

Two of Us: Affection | Understanding the role of affection in marriage


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SL@Home Grateful

Grateful | When gratitude is present in a marriage, the couple’s good humour and welcoming generosity make their homes places of hospitality and warmth for all their visitors.

Responsible Honesty | It’s more than not telling lies; in marriage it requires an willingness to share deeply and vulnerably.

Sexuality as Gift | Learning to appreciate our sexuality and build the sexual atmosphere between us.

The Ambitious Couple | What is the role of ambition in marriage?

Hear Me Know Me | It is often said that we cannot love what we do not know.

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June 2013

Upcoming Events

Marriage Seminar

Yeppoon, QLD | Jun 8, 9
North London, UK | Jun 29, 30
Wollongong, NSW | Sept 7, 8
Brisbane, QLD | Oct 19, 20
Broken Bay, NSW | Nov 9, 10


Pennant Hills, NSW | Aug 10

Pennant Hills | Aug 10

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Group Courses

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Syd | Aug 11 & 28

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About the Author:

Francine & Byron Pirola
Francine & Byron Pirola are the founders and principal authors of the SmartLoving series. They are passionate about living Catholic marriage to the full and helping couples reach their marital potential. They have been married since 1988 and have five children. Their articles may be reproduced for non commercial purposes with appropriate acknowledgement and back links.

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