From the Editors
Happy St Valentine’s Day! Let’s not forget the saint in the celebration. St Valentine was a Roman priest under Claudius II who was executed for marrying young couples against the orders of the Emperor.
In their 2014 St Val’s resource kit, the Australian Catholic Marriage and Family Council features couple prayer. Read it below!
In Faith and Love,
Francine & Byron Pirola
St Valentine for the Modern Church
By Francine & Byron Pirola
For a number of years we have been involved in the St Valentine’s Day initiative of the Australian Catholic Marriage and Family Council. It’s a simple project: provide an easily reproducible print kit to Catholic parishes, schools and family movements with content relevant to married and engaged couples.
When talking about this resource we get perplexed looks from people – why would the Church promote an already over-commercialised, increasingly trivial, secular event?
It is true that the secular response to St Valentine has completely lost sight of the original person and meaning. The true story of St Valentine, like most early saints is mostly lost to the mists of time, but our best understanding is that he was a priest in Rome under Emperor Claudius II. When the Emperor forbade young men to marry so as to more easily recruit them into his army, St Valentine began conducting secret weddings. For this he was arrested and imprisoned and eventually executed. His life stands as a testament to the importance of life-long romantic love, sacrificing his liberty and his life in order to support couples in their pursuit of marital holiness.
Now there’s a message worthy for the modern Church! How many of us would be prepared to give up so much to assist a young couple in this way? In our work in marriage preparation all too often we hear of engaged couples feeling unwelcome when they approach a parish to be married; especially if they do not obviously practice their faith or live outside the parish boundaries. St Valentine is an inspiration not just for starry-eyed lovers and romantic diehards – he is a great example for all of us in the Church; calling us to renew our enthusiasm and encouragement for marriage.
So now the St Valentine’s initiative starts to make sense. As a Church we need to remind ourselves, as much as the secular world around us; that married love is a sacramental witness to God’s presence. A reminder that a life of romance blossoms and deepens within the protection of the marriage commitment and it is our duty as the People of God to support and encourage all couples throughout their married life to foster their romantic affection.
So as a Church we should be pointing out to the world that SAINT Valentine’s day is an important reminder that romantic love, and the marriages that are built and maintained by it, are the foundations of healthy, stable families; that the day exists, not just for those who are dating, engaged or married, but for us all: marriage and the romantic love upon which it is built, makes an irreplaceable contribution to the welfare of every person in our society.
In its own small way, this St Valentine’s initiative is a bit like the other big challenge we face as Christians in an increasingly secular culture; that of ‘keeping Christ in Christmas’. Let us all join together in ‘keeping the Saint in St Valentine’s Day’!
Australian Catholic Marriage & Family Council
“In a culture that is increasingly intolerant of Christian values and beliefs, feasts that have captured the imagination of the secular community, like St Valentine’s Day, represent a unique opportunity for the Church.” – Bishop Eugene Hurley
What better time is there to reflect on our relationships and grow in our love for one another on this special feast day. For your free St Valentine’s Day kit, download the items below! Click here to visit the ACMFC website.
Growing in Love
The popularity of St Valentine’s Day grew out of the joy of celebrating romantic married love. The celebration also encourages us to renew and develop that love. God is love and this year we focus on one particular aspect of deepening the love of a couple, whether they are engaged or married – that is, by turning to God in ‘couple prayer’.
What is Couple Prayer?
Couple Prayer is any prayer said by a couple together. Sounds simple? Well, yes and no! Many couples pray together when attending Mass, saying grace before meals or saying the Rosary. These are wonderful ways to pray but they are not ‘Couple Prayer’. Couple Prayer is when an engaged or married couple speak to God about their needs, concerns and hopes while allowing the other person to hear. It requires a level of intimacy that can be challenging. However, God, the source of the couple’s love can work powerfully through their prayer, deepening their relationship with each other.
Couple Prayer creates the sacred space in our marriage where we open ourselves to God’s presence.
“Our days are so busy and different, so for us, a combination of ‘standard prayers’ like the Our Father and a shared prayer seem to work best. Sometimes, all we can manage is to hold hands and say a Hail Mary together but it is always worthwhile.” – John
Why Pray as a Couple?
One reason is the high correlation between couple prayer and marriage stability – the couple that prays together, stays together. (Read the full article here)
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