Engaged FAQ’s 2017-07-21T10:58:06+00:00

Engaged Online FAQ’s

Marriage is a significant step in life and it is not something to be entered into lightly. Unfortunately, in our overly materialistic culture, the pressure in the engagement period is more about planning an elaborate (and expensive) party rather than taking the time to prepare yourselves for being married to someone for the rest of your life.

In addition, Catholic marriage (or Matrimony) comes with additional obligations. It’s important that you understand these before you commit to them.

Marriage preparation is a process to help you and your fiance prepare for married life. Just like having a healthy diet helps prevent you getting sick, and recover more quickly when you do, Marriage Prep is the same for your relationship. Studies have shown that couples who do good quality marriage preparation have a lower rate of divorce and better relationship resilience when hard times inevitably come.

SmartLoving Engaged has been working with engaged couples for over a decade and we have refined all our insights to bring you a comprehensive course that gives you and your fiance a safe space to ask the important questions and put your love on a solid foundation.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is suitable for all engaged couples.

If you are a long-distance couple, frequent travelers, shift worker, or have caring commitments, SmartLoving Engaged is the perfect course for you that is both high-quality, comprehensive and flexible.

We also have civilly married couples preparing for a Catholic recommitment ceremony and newlyweds. The material is timeless and even mature married couples find it valuable.

At the end of each Lesson, you will complete an online quiz on the material covered. The questions are designed to ensure that you have understood the key concepts. You need at least 80% to advance to the next lesson and quizzes may not be attempted until you have spent a minimum time in the course. Quiz questions can be previewed in the printed handouts.

At the end of the course, you can order your completion certificate by answering a series of short answer questions. Your answers are then compiled into a report your celebrant who may want to discuss some of your answers with you.

To make it easier for you, the questions are provided on the last page in each Lesson’s handout so that you can draft your answers before you submit them. It’s not a test and there are no wrong answers. The purpose of the quiz is to help us support you and ensure that you’ve mastered concepts, frameworks and tools.

Yes. Plus, we will do you one better than just a certificate! Your final documentation includes a certificate and a report compiling your answers to your final assessment. Not only will your celebrant have evidence that you have completed your marriage prep, he will have a chance to clarify anything and offer you and your fiance additional support as needed.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is the latest version of our acclaimed face-to-face curriculum that has been approved for use in dioceses around the world for over 10 years.

If your celebrant has concerns about the quality or efficacy of SmartLoving Engaged Online, please let us know and give us his contact details and we will personally reassure him.

If he still won’t accept your Course Report, we will refund you the cost of the course as part of our quality guarantee.

SmartLoving Engaged Online has a total of nine lessons that take about 1- 1.5 hours each to complete. We recommend that you do one lesson per week so that you have time to practice the tools and complete all the activities. Most participants take around 8-12 weeks.

You can of course, work completely at your own pace and take as little or as much time as you need. However, you can not do the course justice if you aim to complete it in less than three weeks. The material is comprehensive and really requires in between lesson time to use the tools in your daily life so that you experience the benefits.

In addition, course time locks will prevent you from advancing too quickly and a timer will record your total active time spent in the course. This time is part of your documentation at the end of the course.

So don’t be too hasty! Couples who rush the course generally report lower satisfaction and rate the benefits of the course lower than those who take their time. We know it’s a busy time for you, so get started early on in your engagement so that you can take the time you need to really get the most from this.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is offered in two tracks:

The Self-Directed track requires you to navigate through the course on your own. After you sign up, you can begin the first lesson and progress at your own pace. When you get to the last Lesson, you will complete an assessment and your answers included in your certificate for your celebrant to review.

The Parish Mentor track is offered by some parishes and allows you to interact with an experienced married couple, discussing the key concepts and personal insights. If your celebrant/parish doesn’t offer this option, talk to us about having one of our SmartLoving team members accompany you, or you may have a suitable couple in your network who we would be happy to work with.

NOTE: If you need assistance at any time, you can purchase a coaching session with one of our accredited SL Coaches.

All you need a computer/tablet/mobile device with high-speed internet access, the printed handouts and a pen.

SmartLoving Engaged Online is a comprehensive course that uses the power of paper and digital media. Your Course comes with a digital PDF of the printed handouts with permission to print one each for you and your fiance. It is available to download at Lesson 0: Admin as a complete set or at the beginning of each Lesson (Lesson handout only).

You can also purchase the Participant Workbook from our online store (84 pages). At the moment, all Workbooks are shipped from our base in Australia so it may be more cost effective to print your own.

Don’t stress! If you haven’t checked in for a while, our built in reminder system will send you a friendly email prompt. While it may still be months from your wedding, we know from experience that couples who delay their preparation end up having to cram in the last few weeks – the busiest weeks of the engagement period! We want you to get the best value from the course, so we’ll be sure to send you a reminder if we haven’t seen you for more than a week.

If you are having technical issues, contact us immediately using the ‘Got a Question’ Form and we will resolve it as soon as possible.

If you are having trouble integrating any of the lessons or tools, you can purchase a one hour phone coaching session with one of our relationship coaches at anytime during the course.

If you have signed up for Parish Mentor track, speak to your mentors at your next meeting or give them a call for advice.

If you or your fiance require further professional help, consult your celebrant for advice on finding a suitable professional.

To register, visit the website and follow the prompts to Engaged Online. When you enrol, you will create a username & password which will be your login to your account. You only need to purchase 1 registration per couple as the course should be completed together.

Both formats cover the same content. The advantage of the online course is that you can do it at your own pace and on your own schedule.

The advantage of the face-to-face format is that you get a dedicated married couple who are focused on you and your fiancé over the duration of the course. They welcome you into their home and go through the course with you, using discussion points along the way. It’s the optimal way to experience the course as it brings the reality of marriage out in front of you through the mentor couple and their family.

You can’t.

To progress through the course, you will need to get at least 80% in each quiz. The questions are straight forward and there to ensure you’ve understood the main concepts.

If you get under 80% you can redo the quiz. This can be done as many times as you need to get the pass mark and move on to the next lesson.