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Knot Yet! #5: Responsibility Phobia

By Francine & Byron Pirola / July 6, 2016

What comes first, maturity or the responsibility? In the world of adultescence, the absence of the necessity to be responsible, delays maturity. Most of us look back at adolesence and shiver – it’s a tough time developmentally when the young person is reaching for independence but doesn’t quite have the mental resources to cope with adulthood. Many…

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Knot Yet! #4: Marriage Horizon

By Francine & Byron Pirola / November 2, 2013

What comes first: maturity or marriage? Most of us think that maturity should precede marriage, but research suggests that marriage itself is a maturing process. Marriage and family are well known to have a ‘civilising’ influence on participants. We really noticed this impact in ourselves when we had our first child. All of a sudden…

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Knot Yet! #2: Age does matter…sort of

By Francine & Byron Pirola / November 1, 2013

Does age matter when it comes to marriage survival? Almost everyone has an opinion, so let’s do some fact checking! It seems like good advice – well-meaning parents offer it all the time… “you’re too young to get married, you don’t know what you want from life yet.” In fact, the prevailing ‘wisdom’ of the…

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Knot Yet! #3: Ticking Clocks

By Francine & Byron Pirola / October 26, 2013

‘The biological clock’ is phrase often used to describe the sense of urgency childless women experience as they age. But are women the only ones whose fertility is age-limited? We’re all familiar with the proverbial ‘biological clock’ that relentlessly taunts childless women reminding them that their time is running out. It’s one of the reasons…

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Knot Yet! #1: Too Young to Wed

By Francine & Byron Pirola / September 18, 2013

When is a person too young to marry? The age at first marriage has differed throughout history and cultures. It’s no news to anyone that the age at first marriage has been steadily rising in almost every developed nation over the past four decades. In the 1960’s both men and women typically married in their…

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Knot Yet #8: Finding Myself

By Francine & Byron Pirola / December 16, 2011

How important is it to have a solid self-identity before committing to marriage? When emerging adults in committed relationships are polled about why they haven’t yet married, a common theme is ‘the need to find themselves’. They don’t feel ready to give themselves totally in a marriage relationship because they are uncertain about their self-identity.…

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Knot Yet! #7: The Continuity Factor

By Francine & Byron Pirola / December 16, 2011

Is there any continuity between single life and marriage? Or is success (or disaster) in marriage just a matter of fate? Many people assume that what they do as singles will not affect their future marriage relationship. They see single life as the opportunity to ‘have some fun’ and ‘live it up’ before they ‘settle…

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Knot Yet! #6: The Marriage Drain Myth

By Francine & Byron Pirola / December 16, 2011

Does marriage take more than it gives? Is it a drain or is it a reservoir? “You’re throwing your life away!”, was the message one bride in her early twenties was told. Many people delay marriage, and discourage other young would-be newlyweds, because they believe that marriage demands more than it gives. There is a…

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#7 Young and Married

By Francine & Byron Pirola / February 17, 2023

When is someone too young to marry? What is the research, the experience and the facts about the age at which we marry? We’re unpacking the myths, minefields and unexpected blessings of young marriage with SmartLoving graduate, Michael Paton. Guest: Michael Paton is currently the Leader of Liturgy and Retreats and Music Teacher at St…

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The Benefits of Marrying in your Mid-to-late 20s

By Guest Author / July 31, 2015

W. Brad Wilcox | Washington Post | Full article: here These days, 20something marriage has gotten a reputation for being a bad idea. That’s partly because parents, peers, and the popular culture encourage young adults to treat their twenties as a decade for exploration and getting one’s ducks in a row, not for settling down.…

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